With fewer IRL friends than ever, it’s geting easy to skip the step where we’re pleasant to each other.
Do you forget to start your emails ‘n’ such with a pleasantry—heck, a greeting—and just get right down to your transaction? I do it on purpose sometimes, in the interest of reducing people’s attention overload. Greetings are now implied.
The immediate and often character-limited access we now have to each other—texting, IMing and DMing our way into each other’s lives—is almost designed to be abrupt.
I’ve met so many people on Twitter that I consider my ambient friends, but sometimes find my stream a fast and lonely place. Whoever’s there at the moment are the only people that “matter”, and conversations and connections evaporate. If you’re quiet for a day, no one seems to notice you’re gone. It reminds me of the sheer quantity & speed of humanity on a New York sidewalk.
So it’s nice—and surprisingly surprising—to just say ‘hi’ sometimes.